In short, self care is anything you want it to be. Sometimes, the difficulty is figuring out what works for you. These days we are inundated with information about what is good for us….take a walk, gor for a run, have a bath. The truth is, there are a lot of experts out there who can help you feel better (doctors, osteopaths, physios, therapists, nutritionists). Many of these I use myself on a regular basis to help with specific issues but deep down it is only me who can know what makes me feel good, and this will change all the time. For me, working out on Sunday night probably isn’t my thing but taking a bath gets a big thumbs up but ask me the same on a Wednesday morning and my answer is almost certainly reversed.
The other thing about self care which I sometimes forget is that it doesn’t have to be a big, time-consuming event, it could be to stop for a minute and close your eyes. It could be to play your favourite song. The key is to spend some time tuning into you and what works. If you find this difficult, perhaps try journaling and ask yourself some questions: What are my happiest childhood memories? What was I doing last time I properly belly laughed? What did I do last time I had a really good night’s sleep?
Here are some of the things I do to make me feel good:
- A hot bath….not for everyone, maybe you’re more of a Wim Hof and prefer a cold shower?
- Fresh air – staying cooped up inside gives me a fuzzy head, I can’t really remember a time where getting a few breaths of fresh air didn’t make me feel better
- Yoga – no explanation needed from me!
- Time away from my phone. This is something I’ve built into my life in 2021 and it has been an absolute game changer. After dinner, when my husband and I sit down to watch TV our phones stay out of the room and I limit the time I can spend on certain apps at certain times of the day. I’m so much more present and my mind feels much less cluttered. I LOVE IT!
- Writing this blog. This is a new one but I find it really therapeutic. It gives me time to ponder and then share things I’m passionate about which I hope might help other people
- Meditation. I find this hard and would like to dedicate more time to it but even a minute or 2 can make a big difference
Having chatted about this to people some other suggestions have been:
- Listening to some music
- Calling a friend for a chat
- Reading a book
- Playing a musical instrument
I’d love to know what self care means to you?